Kola Boof set to wed Pilot/Businessman Jason Appelbaum
At first I wasn't sure it was real, but it seems it's true. Kola Boof is
indeed getting married. The bestselling author will wed air force pilot
and businessman Jason Appelbaum in November this year. Kola and Jason
have known each other for over 12 years and recently got engaged
Kola writes about Jason:
I’ve always loved Jason as a friend. We were boyfriend and girlfriend
in the past. We have a lot of chemistry and deep attraction for each
other. We are very happy right now and we love each other very much.
You know I’m not one to sugar coat, so I will admit that it’s been
very rough since we decided to tell our families the last week. Jason is
Jewish and his family is mostly upset about my Bin Laden connection and
my past. They see me as loose and dangerous (which tickles Jason). They
are not too happy about our Union but Jason told me that’s why they
live in NY and he lives in California.
On my end, because I’m a public figure, there have been vehement
protests from my Black American mother, ex-lovers and especially fans
and industry people who feel that it’s
hypocritical for a so-called “Afrocentric” like Kola Boof to marry a
White man.
I would like to address that now.
I am not an “Afrocentric”…I am an Americanized writer, adopted from
Omdurman, Sudan by Black Americans who is extremely proud of her
Nilotic-Oromo heritage. Like most Blacks in America, I have been
conflicted my whole life by race issues and identity.
I have never been against marrying a White man, I have been several
White men in the past…but I will admit that my preference (all my life)
has been for Black men. It was always Black men who had the best chance
with me.
However, for those who absolutely can’t understand why “Kola Boof”
would marry a White man, I would like to share with Americans my true
feelings….I live in America…I don’t feel loved by Black American men as a
group…I feel betrayed by Black men…I don’t trust Black men.
Even though they are my preference (my first husband was Black)…I
don’t think I could marry a Black man now at age 44 after everything
I’ve witnessed as an American.
I already have two sons by my first husband who was Black. Jason
Appelbaum has one teenaged son who is fully White. We have decided not
to have children.
But if life steps in and we do end up having a child, I would like it
understood that our child will be considered “Biracial” and not Black.
It’s very important to me that African-Americans understand that about
me as an African woman.
I have already been accused of “breeding out of the race” and
therefore a hypocrite my detractors for engaging a White man. The fact
is, we don’t plan to have children.
Lastly, please do not harass me. I am happy with Jason Appelbaum and
I don’t care, and will not under any circumstances consider what the
public thinks or feels in this matter. I am marrying Jason for several
reasons–as Africans do not merely marry for love. He is the right choice
and the wonderful King for me. He treats me how I deserve to be
treated, he loves my cooking and he is a great conversationalist. He
makes me feel safe and he cares about my feelings and about my
children. My sons adore him.
I didn’t expect to be getting married again–Jason insisted. But I now feel so young again!
I wish everyone love and their favorite things!
Kola Boof
